Lovers in a Dangerous Time: Challenging
Social and Spiritual Cutbacks
Reports from the 1996 Conference
Coordinator's Report by Paul Lafleur
The MNC is growing and changing...
After last year's questions of whether the MNC would survive another year,
the MNC had a greater turnout at its conference this year, which was held
July 18-21, at Wanaki-on-the-Ottawa just west of Ottawa. The organizing
committee made great financial strides in these times of cutbacks by being
able to offer the conference to attendees for half the price of last year's
This year, 30 men attended from as far away as Vancouver, Pangnirtung (near
Iqaluit, Baffin Island) and Halifax . We also had our old comrades from
South and Eastern Ontario.
This year's format changed somewhat from previous years in that we had a
3-day conference and a panel discussion on the Saturday which participants
could opt to attend in lieu of the rest of the conference.
By networking with the Canadian Federation of Students, we were able to
attract quite a few younger men, which was one of the objectives of the
previous year's conference. These younger men injected the conference with
some great enthusiasm and I look forward to new ideas from this energetic
Friday, we had two personal growth workshops led by Luciano Iogna and Bob
Neufeld. I participated in Luc's Interactive Theatre workshop, which at
times was very playful and light (we had great fun interacting with each
other on the beach), progressing to a more intimate gender issue centred
mime-like theatre, which personally touched a chord very deep in my being.
That afternoon, we had the opportunity to listen to Mosesie Nuvaqiq's experiences
leading a men's group in Pangnirtung, through his interpreter, Harry. This
was truly a unique opportunity to get a window into an Innuit community's
experience of gender issues, their justice system and compare it with our
own. There are many things we, as a predominantly WASP society, can learn
Friday evening, Luc's group performed some sketches for the rest of the
men, and Bill Usher lead a sing-song weaved through a storytelling jamming
session, which for many people was one of the highlights of the conference.
Saturday began with regional reports. It is truly heartening to find out
what great work men are doing all across this country. We then listened
with great interest to the three panelists we had invited, who all engaged
us in a great discussion that continues today. Some of their presentations
are included elsewhere in this newsletter.
As is most often the rule at these conferences, an intensely passionate
debate followed the panel discussion, as we looked at the implications of
the presentations to our network, among some of the topics, the mission
statement and the use of language were certainly hot ones.
Bill Usher submitted a Travelling Festival Proposal for MNC outreach that
would further aid us in reaching the goals of our mission statement. The
MNC participants agreed to be a name patron in this endeavour. We look forward
to following this project. What a great idea, Bill.
Sunday morning, we continued the spirited discussions of the previous day,
and then as participants had to leave we closed the conference with Bob
Neufeld leading a heartfelt closing ritual with dance and song. The people
that could stay attended the AGM which Ian Russell was kind enough to chair.
All in all it was a great conference, with great food and facilities thanks
to Ken Fisher for his organizational and catering zeal (the chocolate brownies
were to die for). Also a very big thank you to the conference coordinating
committee: Michael Deloughery, Ken Fisher, Bob Neufeld, Bill Usher, and
Jan Van de Wetering. Without their many hours of dedication this conference
would not have taken place. We ended the meeting by striking a conference
committee to plan for next year's conference. It was proposed that we hold
the MNC 1997 Conference at Wanaki again, since it was such an idyllic spot
Note: There were three panelists. Vince Gilpin's presentation was the only
one available for reprinting.
Panel Presentation by Vince Gilpin
Lovers do not threaten, dominate, oppress or abuse each other. These are
not loving behaviours. But perhaps "lovers" is just a euphemism
for sex partners and, the violence that may be perpetrated by sex partners
on one another is a subject for another occasion.
If I am permitted to remove the unfortunate, purely sexual connotations
from the term "lovers", I think of lovers as people who genuinely
care about the mental, emotional and physical welfare of one another, and
who would be the last to do anything that violated the integrity of one
another or cause each other the least amount of distress. Using that definition,
it is easy to recognize that our society is not a society of lovers and,
we have come to perpetuate the violence of the society by constantly accusing
one group or another of perpetrating violence on other groups. Thus we enact
violence against innocent victims.
We search for who to blame when we should be looking for what is wrong.
We blame and belittle others instead of practising the compassionate gentleness
we claim to strive for. We naively create new icons of gentleness and co-equality
and place them on a level above all others, and in the process, we discount
and oppress ourselves, and practise the very inequities we say we want to
eradicate. We create a cognitive dissonance for ourselves which confuses
our identity, and undermines our sincerity.
The matter is further complicated by the fact that a person can be identified
with two or more different groups which represent different sides of the
oppressive and oppressed spectrum, e.g., a black male jew, or an oriental
lesbian. To which group do these individuals belong? Is he a patriarchal
male oppressor, or does his racial origin excuse him from his masculine
legacy as an oppressor of women? Is the oriental woman in this society primarily
a victim of male oppression or is she less equal among women in this Eurocentric
society, based on her racial origin; or is she the victim of sexual intolerance?
Does being Lesbian affect her social status anymore than being oriental?
All oppression is based on a belief in the essential supremacy of one individual
or group over another. When more than one parameter of distinction obtains,
then they are ranked according to which parameter is considered primary
by the oppressor. Oppression can become so insidious and pervasive that
the oppressed learn to accept the oppressive values of the oppressor. When
this occurs, the oppressed begin to oppress themselves and value their oppressors
as essential models to be emulated. They accept the oppressors' definition
of who they are and what's wrong with them, and they endeavour to modify
themselves to become more like the oppressor. This is a basis for cognitive
dissonance because by overvaluing and identifying with models we can never
become, we induce a crisis of identity, we frustrate ourselves and we deprive
ourselves of the very thing we aim to accomplish.
We must find models of excellence within our own kind and value them as
equal to the best models in all other groups. We must recognize that all
groups contain oppressive abusers and innocent less powerful oppressed members.
This way we reject the critical condemnation of any group en masse, we recognize
our own possibilities and we affirm the co-equality of all. These ideas
apply in inter-group relationships as much as they do in interpersonal relationships.
In times of cutbacks, or shortages, or scarcity of any kind, people tend
to become threatened and desperate. Self preservation looms large and the
group with which one identifies most is seen as a safe haven while other
groups are seen as an essential threat to our survival. It is in times like
these that we become a danger to one another and we fail to be loving to
those who are not like ourselves. We must find ways of making existence
itself a sufficient basis for likeness and co-equality. We cannot continue
to emphasize differences in a competitive way and expect to achieve harmonious
co-existence with all.
Spiritual development is the best hope for all of us because our spiritual
pioneers are the only role models who consistently emphasize co-equality
for all. I can't say the same thing for religious leaders so I make a distinction
between spiritual development and religious affiliation. One of the great
goals of spiritual development is the experience of unity in which the individual
feels at one with all of creation. It is a state of complete appreciation
and mutuality and is based on a profound, abiding, all- encompassing Love.
People in a state of unity are true lovers and their mutual love, identification,
compassion and acceptance is not tarnished even in the face of difficult
and dangerous times.
The participants had an opportunity to list their expectations for the conference.
These were put on flip chart paper and are up around the main indoor meeting
room. The agenda was re- examined in light of these expectations and focus
groups were added to Friday's activities as was a chance for Harry and Moseses
to report on their work with men in their community on Baffin Island.
After this there was a plenary session to identify possible focus group
issues for small group discussion. Three were identified out of the expectations
and other discussion:
1) Guilt, shame and blame
2)Defining "Constructive Masculinity"
3) Redefining the Mission Statement
Friday Morning Focus Groups
Men were given name tags with one of three colours: Red, Green and Blue.
Small group discussions were held in each of these groups. Below are comments
made in the groups.
The Red Group
-Guilt, shame and blame, all relates to other issues
-Labelling ourselves , not necessarily what we do, maybe what we feel we
should be (i.e. anti-racist, etc)
-Privileged group, white middle class liberal therefore not seen as serious
-This is who we are
-All connected - we are the perpetrators, victims, affected
-There are questions about the Mission Statement (shortened to MS in the
rest of the report), The MNC is not actively involved in these issues, we
have been a network for those who are involved, but the MS has allowed us
to differentiate ourselves in a positive way from other men's organizations,
we want to connect with men who share our basic values
-Need to examine and recreate the MS; need to redefine who we are
-No need to eliminate MS but amend, change reword- because the perception
from the existing wording is the MNC is an activist group
-How do we address/acknowledge issues (i.e. some men are violent) without
condemning all men
-Language is critical
-Need to use language that will not stir defensiveness of other men/women
-Attention goes where energy flows; energy flows where attention goes. What
do we stand for rather than focusing on what we stand against.
-Anti-auto movement has that negative mentality; it needs to change, in
Australia, there is an individual that is implementing a visioning of a
car free society and then working on the positive actions that bring that
-MS is perceived as conflict based; media cultural stereotypes, looking
-Conflict oriented society- draws us into patterns and systems
-The Helms-Burton law is an example of that
-Do we deny or ignore these systems or work with them?
-Is alternative culture still propagating "us vs. them" mentality;
If we identify who we are, others can see that "we are that too"
-It was two guys from Ottawa that created the Florida boycott that led to
a change in US policy, we can do the same with vision of "constructive
masculinism" for MNC
-Workshop on men's health, groups that don't work together usually, found
-MNC is it an organization of activists and caring men with administration
and projects or a virtual network that connects activists and caring men
The Blue Group
-Men who are interested in a healthy relationship with themselves and the
rest of the world
-Men who recognize their own oppression as well as their privilege
-Anti-racist needs to be included
-Opposed to all oppression: male & female, minorities and economic oppression
-Committed to equality
- As a father you have to take time for yourself - define your boundaries
-Conscious bringing up of our needs is of ultimate concern here
-Guilt is repressed anger ; need to see behind guilt and see what it points
to; usually it points to the allowing of violation of personal boundaries
-guilt is having our agenda dictated by outside forces and violating personal
-Inability to ask for help goes hand in glove with guilt (the Martyr)
-Self-reliance is instilled by fathers
-We abuse our own needs
-Leave behind our relationship needs, leave our emotions behind, be strong
= "don't show emotions"
-Crying can be joy as well as grief and pain
-Admitting wrongs & mistakes is part of establishing boundaries within
ourselves and with others
-It takes courage not to belittle yourself when admitting weakness or wrongs
The Green Group
-What is purpose, issues?
-Suggestion - engaging younger men: Not sure what we are engaging them in,
what changes to be made to do it?, specific education, not spiritually oriented,
different situations than older men face, MNC is specific
-What do we know/need to know about what young men need? quick one time
-Did we come to change ourselves or the world?
-Is perspective related to age - young have perspective of hopelessness
-Relationship between personal / political
-Outreach of MNC - to existing groups - networking, information sharing,
know they are not alone
-What is invitation and benefits of invitation
-Capitalizing on the material already developed
-Establishing e-net, connecting with University groups
-MS, says same thing a number of times
-Many communities e.g. faith communities which are doing things - how do
we let them know - what is the invitation?
E-Net is one possibility
-Be careful of assumption all have access
-Let water go where it flows
-Face-to -face connections important, networking face to face could be undertaken
-Event is what draws people & network is how you communicate
-Communicate through other media
-A one shot deal will draw people without requiring participants to commit
Thursday and Friday report is up on the Web. Last night was a sharing of
stories and this morning the regional reports from across Canada was very
motivating and exciting. The panel discussion was deeply appreciated by
all, as the three panelists offered their visions in different and complimentary
This afternoon, we are going to attempt to rewrite the Mission Statement
to reflect the current and future direction of this Network and planning
what the MNC will do in the coming year.
MNC AGM Minutes
The AGM was graciously called together by chair Ian Russell of Toronto.
1. The host and cook was warmly and unanimously thanked for his generous
hospitality and tasty sustenance.
2. Minutes of the 1995 AGM were received. The receipt of the 1995 Minutes
was moved by David Nobbs and seconded by Paul Lafleur. Approval was unanimous.
3. The financial report revealed a bank balance of $1169.07, slightly more
than a year ago at this time. The conference was on a separate budget and
essentially paid for itself. There was a discussion on the cost of annual
membership. It was unanimously agreed that the price would be $20. The receipt
of the report was moved by Ken Fisher and seconded by Bill Usher. Approval
4. The MNC Core Group (Ottawa) has a mandate to produce a new brochure.
Michael agreed to maintain the web page and Ken agreed to maintain the newsletter.
Both are looking for support or replacement. Unanimous support was formalized
through a motion by Forrest Smith and seconded by David Abel.
5. The AGM discussed the possibility of a 1997 conference. The following
volunteered to be a part of the planning group: Peter Davison -Halifax (Regional
Representation), David Abel -Toronto (Challenging Violence Against Women),
Bill Usher -Toronto (Outreach & Animation), Murray Thorpe -Ottawa (Leg
Work), Phil Robinson -Guelph (Group Organization), Ray Jones -Toronto (Kingston
Conference liaison). Paul Lafleur -Ottawa (Advice), It was agreed to return
6. The AGM confirmed an expression of strong support for Bill Usher's
MNC Outreach proposal. (following) Unanimous support was formalized
through a motion by Jack Wiggins and seconded by Bob Neufeld.
7. The motion to adjourn was moved by David Nobbs, seconded by Jack Wiggins
and approved unanimously. (as recorded by kf)
MNC Outreach: Draft Proposal
by Bill Usher
100 Bain Ave. 19 the Aberdeens Toronto ON Canada M4K 1E8
416 465-1335 email@example.com
(Since the Conference I've made some headway. I have a list of prospective
foundations that help with work that's addressed to issues concerning young
people 'at risk'. Please mention in the newsletter that the best possible
response I could get initially would be people who are willing to offer
communications insights and strategies - getting the word out is the biggest
need right now and it would be supportive to have folks at the end of an
email willing to listen and respond with helpful suggestions and offers
to pursue their own networks. 96/09/25)
I have an idea for an artistic initiative that I would like to share with
members of the MNC. I think it could be a potent outreach initiative towards
reaching the goals of our mission statement. This idea has its' roots in
a number of other endeavours I have been involved in throughout my career
and has been especially focused by my experience of the last few years as
I have performed my songs and stories to secondary school students and adults.
I'm thinking the time might be right now to go forward with this. Simply
A few social justice organizations who have vision and credibility but lack
funding monies for outreach initiatives would join strengths and put their
names and support to a proposal that would ask for funds from corporations,
foundations, labour and government. These funds would finance a travelling
Festival made up of performance artists who would embrace and thematically
explore the MNC mission statement..
This Festival, made up of 'national tour' artists (both women and men),
would travel to communities across the country and would present concerts
to the host community free of charge. Regional performers would augment
the national touring company in each community.
The Host organizer (e.g. social, faith and justice coalitions, labour, women's
centres, men's groups) in each community would facilitate appropriate concert
opportunities for the Festival's artists. For example, this might result
in a significant number of day-time performances for high school students
as each artistic group went off singly to high schools in the community.
In the evening, the artists would reunite to perform a 'gala' variety show.
The host organizer might also organize symposium events to coincide with
the tour's visit.
All box office receipts for the concert(s) would stay in the local community
to benefit the social justice efforts of that community. The funds would
be directed by the host organizer to 'benefit' a local group or initiative
(e.g. women's shelter, rape crisis phone line, AIDS hospice, educational
As an artist/entrepreneur who is still standing after 25 years of the vicissitudes
of a free lance life, I believe that this idea has strong 'legs'. Why? Because
all partners can gain much while risking little:
-the 'name' patrons (MNC, NAC, White Ribbon and so on) create a project
that will reinforce/gain national exposure and provide a much needed educational
outreach into the larger community - especially to young adults.
-the 'funding' sponsors are provided with a superior national/local venture
that would a/ fulfil their granting/sponsoring mandate and b/ create sympathetic
-the 'Host' community organizer would have the benefit of a superior and
meaningful artistic event to offer to their community to raise funds, profile
and consciousness - without risking any venture funds.
The national and regional media exposure and resulting validation would
be invaluable to ongoing work:
-audiences would be moved by a heartfelt and meaningful concert
-secondary school students would have the rare opportunity to experience
these 2 performers as part of a social justice, progressive initiative.
N.B. More and more schools and boards lack the funding for 'extra' programming
- even though it might speak to core curriculum issues. Give it to them
free of charge and we will have no problem exploring our messages with teen
-social, pro-active efforts in communities across the country would benefit
financially from the box office receipts of night-time concerts.
-performers would benefit from the work and the profile. [Disclaimer: As
a performer, an event like this is tailor made for me. My various creative
and administrative experiences would be invaluable in helping to make it
happen and I could stand to reap many rewards personally, financially and
Who would fund such a loving thing in these hard and dangerous times?
-With perseverance we would find organizations who are on the cutting edge
and/or who either have or want to reinforce a progressive, caring national
profile to parents and especially youth, software company, bank, cosmetics,
clothing manufacturer, condom manufacturer, faith foundations, arts foundations,
oil companies, food marketers, labour organizations....???? There are also
foundations and various health/government initiatives which have funds for
these social areas.
Who would be a name patron?
-Well I'm hoping the MNC would start it off. And then maybe White
Ribbon, NAC and maybe the Canadian Labour Congress and maybe the United
Church and the Unitarian Church and other socially progressive groups......There
are so many diverse individuals and groups across Canada who are working
on social justice issues in their daily life. This travelling Festival could
be the needle and thread linking them all together in a necklace of combined
beauty and strength.
I invite your thoughts and discussion,
One Man's Evaluation by Phil Robinson
Men Against Violence Collective
I hope everyone is doing well. I am doing okay, except exams have started
and I can't seem to stop sweating. Anyway, I wanted to send in my evaluation
- I know, it's late, but it has taken me a while to mentally process the
conference. In fact, I'm still thinking about it, which is a good thing.
I am writing it in the format that the evaluation sheets were developed.
1. Events that stand out in my memory:
-the best events that I attended were the informal discussions that took
place on the beach, the porch, in the kitchen, etc. These allowed for networking
and the sharing of experiences that didn't always happen in the larger,
more structured sessions.
-the story telling was excellent, although I could have done without the
urn and the candles (perhaps this is my issue and something that I have
to deal with myself, but after working in the "front-line" for
several years I cannot help but get uneasy in situations that resemble -
and again, maybe this is something I need to work out on my own - ritual
-Luc's workshop on drama was excellent (I'm hoping to bring him to Guelph
2. High Points:
After the conflicts and differences were exposed and openly debated in a
somewhat safe and considerate environment. This is when I felt the most
comfortable, largely because it gave me a better idea of where everyone
was coming from. Once I had a better "feel" for others' perspectives,
it became much easier for me to participate.
I think when I first arrived was probably the time I felt most uneasy. A
"men's conference" can be a little intimidating, especially when
a lot of the language that was being used was familiar to me in a very different
context. To elaborate, words like "ritual", "spiritual",
"soul", "psyche" (and other therapy-related terms) have
connotations that I am often uncomfortable with. Perhaps I need to get more
accustomed to a range of language uses and not get disillusioned by the
differences in language (either regionally, generationally, or whatever)
and the value judgements we place on different words.
I think the approach I take is very different in many ways to that of other
attendees at the conference (and there is nothing necessarily wrong with
difference!). This was perhaps most apparent during and after the panel
when many attendees were inspired by Vince (the psychotherapist) and I was
inspired by the other two panelists - but again, the resulting upheaval
and disagreements were also the best part of the conference.
The other low-point was when Bob and I were soaking wet and trapped by the
rain in the mesh tent. But then again, this was a great conversation piece
the following day.
3. Most Helpful:
The opportunity to connect with other men and discuss our shared experiences,
involvements, opinions, etc.
4. Add: More opportunity to discuss strategizing around the "four tenents":
pro-feminism, anti-racism, male-affirmative and gay-positive.
Change: A focus on rejuvenation or self-care is fantastic, but I would prefer
it to be less focused on "spirituality". For me, spirituality
is only one part of "self-care", and it is something that I cannot
do in an organized fashion - at least not until I know everyone and am comfortable
with them. This is not to say that spirituality groups shouldn't be offered,
rather my point is to suggest that all "self-care" type of things
shouldn't be in a spirituality context.
I felt good about the conference. It enabled me to connect with other men
and develop new ways of relating to people. I plan on using these experiences
with men in Guelph. I also left the conference with information on what
other men were doing, especially in regards to violence against women. I
developed some valuable friendships that will help me in my work and, more
generally, in my life.
The conference also singled out the importance of self-care, although I
didn't necessarily like the fact that it was in a "spirituality"
Finally, the conference forced me to critically examine my own beliefs and
values. For instance, I had to actively thing about the similarities and
differences that I had with other people and their perceptions. This was
valuable. I should clarify that when I discuss my differences with others
it is not intended to be value-laden. As I stated at the conference, I have
no problem with conflict. In fact, I think conflict can play a great role
in helping me discover my "self".
6. I am now connected to a larger network of men. This is very empowering
and I look forward to organizing future events with the MNC.
7. Perhaps next year's conference can focus on "Rejuvenation and Strategizing
for Change" or something like that. It would be helpful (for me) to
have a clear focus on both rejuvenating ourselves and doing direct political
strategizing and networking. In terms of strategizing, it would be great
for individuals to share their experiences through workshops/discussions
on things like confronting violent men, supporting children that disclose
abuse to us, fighting social service cuts, etc. The purpose of these could
be to share information and methods, as well as connect with other men.
One last point: I think there is a lot of work that needs to be done in
order to make MNC's conferences more inclusive. A lot of what went on during
the weekend was geared to an audience that is largely white, middle-class
and middle-aged. This is not necessarily a problem in itself, but if the
MNC wants to address younger men, men of colour, etc., there are changes
that could be made.
I really appreciated the effort the organizers put into this conference.
I learned a lot and had a lot of fun - you all did a great job - thank-you.
I hope my feedback is helpful. I hope to stay in touch with everyone - feel
free to e-mail or phone me at any time. see you in Kingston in October,
I hope! Phil Robinson
From: Michael Kaufman <firstname.lastname@example.org>
Dear brothers, Hope you have a wonderful conference. My spirits are with
you and, I hope, yours are with me. Michael
From: Terry Boyd <71062.3444@CompuServe.COM>
Ken, Hi, how are you doing? Bad news from the Boyd/Dunlop-Addley household.
We are not going to be able to attend the MNC weekend in July. Sorry. We
had been looking forward to attending.
The problem is family. My father is in the hospital. It would appear that
he has a tumour on his pancreas--final diagnosis pending. At the same time,
my mother just underwent a geriatric assessment, and, as a result, we will
have to move her from her apartment to a nursing home. Unfortunately, I
(Terry) am the only one of the siblings who lives in London--so I will have
to take responsibility for the arrangements for both parents. Joseph has
been (and continues to be) my key emotional support (not to mention helper)
in dealing with these events. But the bottom line is we simply cannot manage
a weekend in Ottawa at this time. We sure hope that the conference goes
well and are looking forward to the reports from you all. Best wishes Terry
(and Joseph) (Terry's father passed away at the end of August . Please accept
our condolences, Terry, ed.)
From: David Rice-Lampert <email@example.com>
Subject: Reply re MNC conference
(Note:Put my name in the subject if you are able as this is a Divisional
address, and my mail isn't highlighted without my name.)
Hi hope all is well . The conference looks great but I see no way to make
it due to my dwindling financial resources. I will pass on the information
to others in the Peg, who may be interested.
I am involved in lots of interesting violence-prevention activities too
numerous to mention now but one initiative is with Men For Change Halifax.
I am coordinating bringing in Peter Davison for almost one week. I am working
with the U. of M. research centre on doing a three-year evaluation of the
Healthy Relationships Curriculum. A long story shortened, I am planning
community and youth events while Peter is here.
I am also organizing, through work again, a conference on family violence
and cross-cultural issues. This is all through work! I am enjoying my "new
position" retitled Coordinator/Trainer Cross-Cultural Violence Prevention.
So this is all for now. I will keep in touch electronically. Take Care.
From: firstname.lastname@example.org (Bob Kneebone)
Hello friends... Yes I'm alive and well in Beijing; just got mail from Will
Boyce and understand that you are in the middle of a conference. I recently
got wired into this network (things move slowly in Beijing) and it feels
a bit strange after 11 months of little contact outside of the Middle Kingdom.
It's been one hell of a year, working our butts off, trying to adapt to
an alien culture, and missing friends from home. There is not much going
on here that I can participate in regarding feminist ideas (they certainly
are needed; most students are rather sexist) although, myself and most of
the teachers manage to have considerable discussion and influence around
I find the expression of men's friendship in Beijing very interesting. It
is not at all uncommon to see men holding hands in public and walking down
the street arm in arm; this being most prevalent in the student population.
At the same time, most Chinese are very anti gay; reciting years of official
I wish you all well and hope to hear from you over the weekend.
Lots of hugs, Bob & Ruth in Beijing email@example.com
Please enter Bob in Subject: section of Email.
Regrets were also received from Harvey Schacter, Johnny Yap, Bert Young,
Roger Davies,, Chris Sunde, Greg Carter and David Murphy. Apologies to those
whose names were not included.
Conference Description and Agenda
Personal & Political Growth
On Friday, spend the day learning about, debating and discussing issues
that are important to you, and exploring different facets of yourself.
Some suggested workshops are:
* Critically examining masculinity
* Interactive Theatre: with Luciano Iogna Problem-solving our issues
* Delivering educational programmes in institutions that challenge men's
* Exploring your inner clown (conscious myth-making)
Challenging Social and Spiritual Cutbacks: Panel Discussion
In these times of cutbacks and backlash, how can men make a difference?
can we co-create and support the movement for progressive social change?
Saturday morning's panel and plenary will discuss these issues from a
pro-feminist, gay affirmative, male positive and anti-racist perspective.
Visions for the Future
How can we promote co-creative relationships that offer healing and develop
boundless resources of loving energy? We want to develop a feeling of
community that is fun, respectful, open and caring.
Some suggested focus groups are:
* National communication strategy- What next?
* Engaging younger men in the MNC
Evenings are party-time. Spend time together in a relaxed setting. If you
like, bring musical/per-cussion instruments, CDs and tapes.
Saturday night will be hosted by Bill Usher.
Meals are included in registration fee.
Thursday July 18
WELCOME TO WANAKI
1800-2000 Dinner (RSVP)
2000-2200 Welcoming Rituals
Friday July 19
CELEBRATING OUR PASSION & POTENTIAL
0900-1245 Morning Workshops
1345-1730 Afternoon Workshops
Saturday July 20
VISIONING & CO-CREATING OUR FUTURE
0930-1015 Regional Reports
1030-1115 Panel Discussion
***Vince Gilpin, M.S.W.
Psychotherapist & Trainer
Gilpin Robinson, Inc.
Co-director Women's Action Centre
Against Violence: Ottawa-Carleton
Regional Municipality of Ottawa-Carleton
1130-1230 Questions and Discussion
1515-1630 Plenary: Visions for the Future
1630-1830 Free Time
Sunday July 21
CONSENSUS & DIRECTION
0900-1030 Focus Groups:
-Engaging Younger Men
-Finances and Membership
1300-1400 Closing Rituals
Annual General Meeting
Sunday's AGM will formalize the consensus reached during Friday's and Saturday's
discussions. Also, necessary items such as finances, membership, committee
reports, approval of minutes and arising business will be decided.
*As a context for the theme, you might want to examine Love,
Justice, Sex, and Money - the Keynote Address of Terry Boyd and Joseph
Dunlop-Addley at the 1995 Kingston Conference
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